We have all felt it...mommy guilt. It really is one of the worst feelings in the world I think. I had a huge dose of it this summer when I was put on bed rest at 25 weeks with the pregnancy of my daughter. My poor son (at that time two) had absolutely no idea why his usually semi-energetic mommy was suddenly in forever time out on the couch. He would ask me to do the simplest things like go get him a drink or help him with the potty and I had to tell him that I couldn't because I wasn't able to get up. He was so confused and distressed over the whole situation. After the birth of our daughter, if we would go out somewhere, my son would ask me, "Are you coming too mommy?" He would do this to me for months, he was so used to going places without me.
On Friday, I thought that me and the kids had a great day! We went to Starbucks for coffee and milk and shared fruit and yogurt for breakfast and then we headed to the new library so my son could get his first library card and spend some time reading and playing. I got home slightly behind schedule and started working as soon as I walked in the door.This is another area of huge mommy guilt for me, choosing to work from home. My son, in general, has adapted well to me and my decision to not give him all my attention all day long. But of course there are days when he can't understand why I can't put that track back together right at that moment or why he can't talk to me for 30 minutes because I'm making phone calls for a client...it stinks.
So, mommy guilt. Do you ever have it because you really want some time all to yourself? I think that type of mommy guilt should have it's own category. Like, Friday night, I wanted to take a bath...all by myself. I had to sneak upstairs and hope that no one knew I was missing. WRONG! I just got in the tub, stretched out, got my book when I heard, "Can I get in the bath with you?" Sheesh! How did he find me so quick?! I found myself pleading with my son to leave me alone just I can be myself. How do you effectively explain this to a three year old? He finally said, "Okay mommy, I will. I will go back down to daddy." But not before he gave me his dolphin and a boat from his bathtub. So, he did leave, but I wasn't left feeling happy about my time alone, I felt horrible! Once more, guilt ridden. I felt so bad that I asked him to leave me alone just so I could get a bath. All he wanted to do was spend time with me and play in the bathtub and I shooed him away. What's wrong with me?
Then I realized, I'm a work at home mom, that's wrong with me. I constantly surround myself with my children (by choice) so that I can work at home and I can watch them grow with me. I shouldn't feel guilty for wanting some peace and quiet to myself; all parents deserve that time! So, what I learned is what I need to learn to deal with is the feeling of guilt. It's a natural feeling and very deal-able. The problem with guilt is it's an unsettling, almost achy feeling and it's hard to shake, but as parents we need to learn to shake it. In the end, the majority of things that we feel guilty about are good for the whole family. It may not feel good initially, but it probably has good intentions behind it. For instance, my bath: 1.) I needed a few moments to myself to de-stress and wind down from the day which creates harmony in me, 2.) It gave the kids a chance to hang with daddy for a bit and 3.) I was clean again!
Now you tell me, when was the last time you felt mommy guilt?
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
The Circus is Coming!
I am so excited! The circus is coming! I'm even more excited to share this fun event with my three year old. My husband and I decided that this was the year that he was old enough to enjoy the circus and we are circus bound next Thursday! But here is the funny thing...
Have you ever tried to explain the circus to a three year old? I told him there were animals there and he asked, "Like the zoo?" "No...it's the circus, not the zoo. There are clowns there too!" He then asks me, "Why is it someone's birthday?" Me: "No...Well, it might be someone's birthday. Never mind, that's not the point." He really makes me doubt myself as a past educator:)
Finally, I broke down and we got on the Internet and checked out The Ringling Brothers and Barnum & Bailey Circus's Blue Tour which is what we are going to see!
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If you live in the Baltimore/DC/Virginia area, the dates are as follows for your performances! Hope to see you there!
Baltimore show dates: March 25 through April 5 Baltimore location: 1st Mariner Arena http://www.baltimorearena.com/ Washington D.C. Show dates: March 19 through March 22 Washington D.C. location: http://www.verizoncenter.com/
Fairfax, VA Show dates: April 8 through April 19
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Wednesday, March 11, 2009
How I met my Hubby!
Hey there ladies! I'm writing this little post because my crazy microphone on my computer is not working! This is apart of the Date this Mom contest and I'm excited to be apart of it!
Well, I met my husband Justin in high school. I was two years ahead of him in school. I realllly liked him! He was just so darn cute! Now I have to find a picture to post of him so you all can see how cute he is:
He's a cutie, isn't he? Well, when he was in high school, he had hair down to his shoulders...hard to believe now! This police officer has to keep his hair extra short!
I had a MAJOR crush on Justin, even though he was two years younger than me, I didn't care! In high school, we had Sadie Hawkins dance where the girl asked the guy. I was super shy, so I decided to write Justin a little note that went something like this: "Dear Justin, I like you. I think you are cute. Will you go to the dance with me? Check O yes or O no. luv ya, Becky"
How funny was that??!!
Well, I never heard anything back from him and as you can imagine, I was slightly heartbroken. Fast forward a week or two later and one of my "friends" informed that SHE was going to the dance with him. Once again, heartbroken...and not overly happy with my friend either!
Fast forward again to the year 1997 and I was in a not so healthy relationship. It was homecoming and I really wanted to go. It was the first homecoming since I had graduated from high school and I was so excited to go and see old friends. I had to tell a fib to my current boyfriend because I didn't want him tagging along and ruining my fun. Well, at the game, I ran into Justin. We flirted a bit...it was cute but that was that.
Fast forward again...I broke up with my boyfriend (silent cheer) and was working at a sporting goods store. I became interested in a guy that worked there and worked up the nerve to invite to a pool hall with the gang one night. He accepted and I was so excited! That same night, Justin walks into the store and he just hangs out...it was kind of weird...lol. I asked him when his mom was going to pick him up and he told me that she dropped him off (again weird). So, I asked him if he wanted to go to the pool hall also and he said yes!
At the pool hall, we just clicked. I totally forgot the other guy was there! We bonded over music and he laughed at how bad I cheated at pool because I suck so bad at it! The song "The Freshman" by the Verve Pipe came and we both said at the same time, "I love this song." That song comes on and we still smile!
It hasn't been an easy road. My husband and I were teenagers when we met, so we had to grow up together and we learn more about each other everyday! We often times revert back to our petty fights and ways because it's hard to be a grown up some times! But we make the best of it because we are in it for the long haul!
Oh, and here is a great ending to that story: We are cleaning out/moving out of his bedroom when we bought our house in 2002 and he comes across this letter...from a girl in high school whose name was Becky and she asked him to Sadie Hawkins. He never read it!!! What a pain in the butt...
Well, I met my husband Justin in high school. I was two years ahead of him in school. I realllly liked him! He was just so darn cute! Now I have to find a picture to post of him so you all can see how cute he is:
He's a cutie, isn't he? Well, when he was in high school, he had hair down to his shoulders...hard to believe now! This police officer has to keep his hair extra short!I had a MAJOR crush on Justin, even though he was two years younger than me, I didn't care! In high school, we had Sadie Hawkins dance where the girl asked the guy. I was super shy, so I decided to write Justin a little note that went something like this: "Dear Justin, I like you. I think you are cute. Will you go to the dance with me? Check O yes or O no. luv ya, Becky"
How funny was that??!!
Well, I never heard anything back from him and as you can imagine, I was slightly heartbroken. Fast forward a week or two later and one of my "friends" informed that SHE was going to the dance with him. Once again, heartbroken...and not overly happy with my friend either!
Fast forward again to the year 1997 and I was in a not so healthy relationship. It was homecoming and I really wanted to go. It was the first homecoming since I had graduated from high school and I was so excited to go and see old friends. I had to tell a fib to my current boyfriend because I didn't want him tagging along and ruining my fun. Well, at the game, I ran into Justin. We flirted a bit...it was cute but that was that.
Fast forward again...I broke up with my boyfriend (silent cheer) and was working at a sporting goods store. I became interested in a guy that worked there and worked up the nerve to invite to a pool hall with the gang one night. He accepted and I was so excited! That same night, Justin walks into the store and he just hangs out...it was kind of weird...lol. I asked him when his mom was going to pick him up and he told me that she dropped him off (again weird). So, I asked him if he wanted to go to the pool hall also and he said yes!
At the pool hall, we just clicked. I totally forgot the other guy was there! We bonded over music and he laughed at how bad I cheated at pool because I suck so bad at it! The song "The Freshman" by the Verve Pipe came and we both said at the same time, "I love this song." That song comes on and we still smile!
It hasn't been an easy road. My husband and I were teenagers when we met, so we had to grow up together and we learn more about each other everyday! We often times revert back to our petty fights and ways because it's hard to be a grown up some times! But we make the best of it because we are in it for the long haul!
Oh, and here is a great ending to that story: We are cleaning out/moving out of his bedroom when we bought our house in 2002 and he comes across this letter...from a girl in high school whose name was Becky and she asked him to Sadie Hawkins. He never read it!!! What a pain in the butt...
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